Today’s episode is a very quick but important reminder: life can change in an instant. You never know when you might say goodbye to someone for the last time.

I don’t mean this to take a morbid left turn, but I also truly believe contemplating death is a really important part of any fulfilling life.

In terms of relationships, it may mean swallowing your pride to ensure no conversation leaves off in anger or unease. 

Have a listen and consider this your short, daily pep talk before going out and soaking the hell out of every moment and everyone you love today.

REFERENCES:

Episode 248 | Grief, Love & Why One Cannot Exist Without the Other

Episode 287 | A Relationship Ending is Never a Failure – It’s an Introduction to a New Version of Yourself

Episode 307 | Soften. Because You’ll Never Really Regret It

Episode 311 | Go Where People Love, Cherish & Believe in You

Episode 313 | 35 Lessons About Life, Love & Human Connection

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Room to Grow Podcast

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EPISODE TRANSCRIPT:

I’m Emily Gough, a human connection coach speaker, and mental health advocate within insatiable sense of curiosity and adventure. Always asking more questions and using the power of stories to teach, learn, and grow. It’s about allowing for room to grow. And this podcast focuses on three main pillars, human connection, personal growth, and freedom. We cover topics like relationships and cultivating,

genuine, supportive connections with ourselves and others speaking your truth, shattering personal barriers, radical self-acceptance, and courageously leaning into your skillsets. Whether it’s a solo episode or bringing on highly curated guests with incredible stories, experiences, and expertise to share, we’re leaning in and taking the entire idea of growth to the next level all while still covering the uncomfortable topics that many of us like to avoid.

There’s always more room to grow. Let’s do this. Hello. Hello. Welcome back to the room to grow podcast. Today’s episode is going to be super quick. One. This is an extra cookie, and I just want to offer you a reminder. I was having a conversation with somebody about the sea of the day. And I wanted to give you a reminder about the fact that we never know when it will be our last time with someone so savor every moment.

And I don’t even mean that in, in a morbid way necessarily. Although of course, that’s always a possibility. Every time we, we open our eyes in the morning, it’s a gift. It’s a fucking gift. And we are not promised tomorrow. None of us are it’s part of being human. So contemplating death is actually a really important part of any fulfilling life.

And, but, but I’m also talking about this about, you know, savoring moments with, with people because you never know when it will be your last time with them. I mean that from the standpoint of things can change. Like life happens, perhaps you break up with someone whether unexpectedly or not. And then you realize later that you had no idea,

it would be your last time eating at that restaurant together that you loved taking that, that, that really special trip, or even sharing simply an intimate conversation or a hug. Maybe you part ways with a friend that you have many shared memories with or a family member passed away. Suddenly it’s only when you’ll look back that you’ll realize that those seemingly simple moments in time,

you shared with them where your last, before things changed, we all have those moments where it’s like those, those cataclysmic moments where it’s like, oh, this is where things changed. And my friend Traver, Bolam asks a beautiful question that I now use with people. And he’s been on the podcast a couple of times I’ll reference the episodes cause they’re just awesome.

But he asks the question. When was the moment that everything you knew to be true was no longer true. And you may look back and realize that you’ve had some of those moments or maybe some of those moments are still ahead of you. Sometimes we’ll, we’ll have multiples of those moments throughout our life with a variety of different circumstances, but things can change.

And when we look back at certain times in our lives, we will realize like, oh, things were never the same after that, after this, after that specific moment where things shifted and then everything looked different on the other side of that. And that doesn’t even have to mean necessarily anything super dramatic or devastating. It can just mean that things can change.

And then we might realize that that, that that’s part of any particular what’s coming to mind for me is like a breakup of a romantic relationship where then when you’re maybe feeling nostalgic or you’re looking back on certain memories that you shared with that person, you start pinpointing, oh, that was the last time we did that together. But I didn’t know it,

or that was the last time that, that we did this or that we went there or that we had that type of conversation. And, and, and you, you didn’t know that that was going to be the last time I was raised with both a mother and a grandmother who would remind me that you never know when the last time you saw someone would be.

So both of them taught me that even if you were angry with someone, if you loved them to tell them before you parted ways, because you never knew if that was going to be the last time that you ever saw them. And I’ve always tried to live by that. Like, yeah, when you’re really pissed at someone that might be harder to remember.

But, but I, I really do, even when I’ve, when I’ve been in relationships and even if I’ve been really mad at somebody, when they’ve been walking out the door, I still would always tell them how much I love them. And, and genuinely like I would still, I, you, the duality, right? We can hold multiple things.

I talk about that all the time. We can hold multiple things, multiple truths at the same time, you can be pissed off and still love somebody. Right? We’ve all been there. So that’s, I just want to offer you that reminder today that you never know when it will be your last time with someone in a variety of different capacities and please savor every moment that you can.

They’re precious. Okay. That’s the reminder for today. I’m going to jump off and thank you so much for listening. Thank you so much for listening to the podcast today. It means the absolute world to me, and I’m so grateful for any references in the episode and all show notes. Be sure to jump over to room, to grow podcast.com. And if this episode touched your heart,

it would mean so much. If you would take a quick second to hit subscribe, write a review and share on social media, over someone who really needs to hear today’s message. It makes such a difference to keep this podcast going so I can continue to bring you amazing content and absolutely incredible guests. Be sure to tag me over on Instagram at Emily golf coach,

that I can thank you in real-time for listening and connect with you. We’re back every Tuesday and Thursday with new episodes, and I’m looking forward to growing with you.