It’s tempting to want to play the role of “superhero” in a relationship – the guardian, the savior, the teacher, or the protector. But over-prioritizing their needs over your own often has a villainous effect on a healthy relationship. Because if all of your focus is on their safety, wellbeing and nurturing, you then neglect what’s more important – your own.
My partner, Kelly Gardner, a Relationship Coach and Men’s Group Facilitator, and I have identified two (comically labeled) archetypes of the kinds of superheroes we often see in relationships:
Captain Save-A-Hoe: the man here to “save” and “heal” a broken partner.
Queen Change-A-Dick: the woman on a mission to help the lost boy grow into a great man.
Today we’ll explain why you need to stop prioritizing your partner’s needs over your own, and how the foundation of a healthy relationship is really built on focusing on yourself, first.
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