Not All Men, But Almost Always With Traver Boehm Of Man UNcivilized

men's health

April 11, 2023

This conversation is hands-down one of my favourites to date on this podcast!

We’re speaking with Traver Boehm, an author of two books, 2 time TEDx Speaker, men’s coach and founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement, which is radically redefining the way men around the globe experience their masculinity by uniquely blending both primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness.

Drawing upon an eclectic background ranging from professional body guarding and Mixed Martial Arts to Traditional Chinese Medicine and meditation, Traver also teaches people to skillfully use the inevitable pain of their lives as fuel for growth and positive change.

In 2016 after losing a pregnancy, his marriage, and his business partnership all within weeks of each other, he created a radical social experiment and spent the next 12 months as if it were his last year to live, aptly naming it “The Year to Live Project.” A few of the highlights of the year include:

-Volunteering with the dying as a hospice worker

-Spending 28 days in complete isolation and pitch black darkness in Guatemala

-Living in the frigid Utah wilderness for a month with only a knife, a water bottle, and a blanket

After publishing Today I Rise and receiving an influx of calls specifically from men, Traver began guiding men through their own journey into an actualized version masculinity by asking them these two questions:

Are you leading or being led?” And, “What are your wounds and what are you doing to heal them?

When so many said this way of thinking and living was counterintuitive to how they were taught “civilized” men should act, the movement was born.

Now men all over the world have deemed themselves UNcivilized as they wake up to meditate, feel into their hearts, and train their bodies. Men who can fight, fuck, feed, and feel. And do all four well.

When not teaching workshops or radically shifting the way men experience their masculinity, Traver can be found chewing on his thumbnail in front of his laptop, chasing surf around the globe, or being reminded that yoga is a lot harder than it looks.

One of the MANY reasons we’re planning a part two is that we didn’t even have enough time to get into a huge portion of his journey, so stay tuned for the next round for more from Traver.

This conversation is real, raw and unfiltered.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

  • How men show up in relationships and the biggest reason why women end relationships (outside of abuse) and how men can cultivate a superpower to make the feminine feel safe in unexpected ways
  • The powerful message Traver has for men everywhere and how he’s looking to change the entire culture and spread his message, along with addressing where men need to take responsibility for their own emotional health
  • Men’s mental health, and the mountain of male trauma that often goes unaddressed as males have so much less social support than women and a suicide rate that is 3X higher
  • Traver’s take on one of the biggest reasons why he believes mass shootings end up happening and what to do about it.
  • What we can learn from our pain

Traver’s fire and passion for what he does is so evident, and this episode is an absolute must-listen for anyone and everyone.

**We’re speaking in heteronormative terms in this episode based on personal experiences for each of us, and we address this in the conversation as well, but everything we discuss can be applied to anyone regardless of sexual orientation, especially since everyone has both masculine and feminine energies, and it’s more a conversation of which is more dominant for you as an individual.**

Most importantly, please share! More people need to hear this powerful message.

Let me know your thoughts on this episode – you can email me or DM me over on Instagram @emilygoughcoach. I would love to connect with you and thank you for listening! 


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Instagram: @traverboehm

UNcivilized Nation

Book: Man UNcivilized

Podcast: The UNcivilized Podcast with Traver Boehm

TEDx Talk: How to Make Pain Your Guru

TEDx Talk: Why We Need More UNcivilized Men

Traver’s IGTV about #NotAllMen


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