The Hidden Costs of Losing Yourself in Relationships

October 27, 2022

Entering into a relationship means devoting a big part of yourself to someone else. But how do you give yourself to someone else without losing yourself completely? 

I see this happen very often, where people shelf their own needs, core values and joy for the sake of the relationship. It usually results in relationship imbalance and the devastating lack of deep connection and joy. The pain of which can also affect future relationships. 

But just because your life now operates in tandem with someone else, doesn’t mean losing yourself. Here, I have three fundamental keys to retaining your sense of self in a relationship, while still creating that harmonious balance with someone else that makes every great relationship so special. 

In this episode, we’re talking about: 

  • Why people often lose their sense of self in a relationship
  • The three main entities within a relationship
  • How losing yourself affects your current and future relationships
  • What to focus on in a new relationship
  • Why we minimize or lack joy in our relationships
  • Three keys for retaining your sense of self in a relationship
  • Why you should take it slow when starting a relationship
  • Why you shouldn’t give up your outside interests in a relationship

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REFERENCES

Episode 263 | The Value In Being Alone On Purpose (Whether Single Or In A Relationship)

Episode 294 | Why I Intentionally Spent My Birthday Alone & Taking Your Power Back

Episode 291 | Confident Detachment & Radical Honesty In Relationships With Dr. Jade Teta

Episode 277 | Are You Waiting Around To Be Chosen? (Standards, Boundaries & Expectations)

Episode 117 | The 9 Year Affair: Lessons In Infidelity

Episode 285 | When Healthy Love Feels Scary: Some People Aren’t Ready To Be Truly Seen

Episode 284 | How To Recognize A Healthy Relationship, Radical Honesty & Making Kindness Cool With Dr Jeremy Goldberg Of Long Distance Love Bombs

Episode 323 | What It Means To Hold Boundaries, Even When We’re Disappointing Others

Episode 282 | The Fear Of Communication, Asking For What You Want In The Bedroom & Embracing Your Sensitivity With Sara Silverstein

Episode 239 | Communication: The Lubrication For Relationships With Renelle Nelson

Episode 333 | The Real & Underrated Love Languages

Episode 248 | Grief, Love & Why One Cannot Exist Without The Other

Episode 249 | Developing The Capacity For Unconditional Love

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